When Sam is Away, Kate Will Play

Early in our relationship, Kate and I spent considerable time apart due to my job. I traveled a lot. A lot. Before Covid, I had enough miles to bump myself to First / Business class for both legs of the 14 hour + flight from San Francisco to Singapore. I’d crossed the Pacific more than 30 times by then and was well aware of what fucking magic it was to get horizontal for hours on end in the air.

The last trip in that era ended with my leaving Iceland on Friday March 13th 2020, AKA the Day the World Ended. We got into Newark at about 1130 PM, which was as weird as the Singapore flights were awesome.

This week I got on an airplane solo for the first time since the return from Iceland. Short trip, fly out to Colorado on Thursday, back home on Sunday. Visit with my son, catch Foo Fighters at Mile High Stadium on Saturday. Kate being Kate, she’s spending a night with each of her two boyfriends. First time I’ve written that, “two boyfriends”….if fits and is accurate. Between those two nights, grandkids will be sleeping over, MUCH to Clifford the Wonder Dog’s delight. Balance.

Since Kate and I have been together, I’ve been her most frequent and consistent lover. We’ve had some truly amazing sex: the detonation variety, making slow love to each other, the “hi how are you, lets connect for a little while and forget about the dishes” type sex. Some orgies mixed in with three and foursomes.

While I take the consistency and frequency prize, she needs more. Kate just isn’t monogamous and has a greater need for connection with other people than I do. Hotwifing is perfect for us.

Here’s how Chat GPT defines Hotwifing: “A Hotwife refers to a married woman who has sexual relationships with other men, typically with the knowledge and enthusiastic consent of her husband. It often involves elements of exhibitionism, cuckolding, and open relationships.” I added “enthusiastic”.

James and Kate have been fucking for a year now. That’s crazy to think about, from the holy shit time is moving FAST point of view. He’s far and away Kate’s most persistent lover who isn’t married to her. Having seen them from extreme close range, I know why this is; they have OMFG great sex together.

Chris is the new guy on the block. He’s a regular Sam & Kate reader, and reached out to us via the email listed in our about page. Turned out we lived less than an hour apart, and we met him a month ago for coffee and to talk ENM. We all hit it off, it was clear he and Kate had a connection. We’ve met for dinner since then, and he and Kate have played and gone to a swinger house party together. He’s rounding out Kates weekend.

Seeing Kate fuck another man isn’t an every day occurrence, nor is it a plot twist. I’ve seen her with the majority of men she’s played with over the last few years. It’s different with James.

He has a woo woo vibe at times, he and Kate can get lost talking about several different topics. This is a part of the James connection, it’s more than his physicality. Kate feeds on this, and into it. She’s not an energy vampire, she gives as much as she takes. Kate and I have this in spades; so do her and James. That said, the connection they have has a part time vibe. They both seem content with their flow.

By the time I shared a bed with them, they had played several times already. I was well aware James did some wonderful things for Kate, and she for him.

After some foreplay and messing around, James started out fucking Kate while he was upright on his knees, kind-of missionary with him more vertical. (Does this have a name?) I guess this was the warm up. Kate getting used to him being in her; James is decidedly on the “well hung” side. Even at this point in the proceedings, I could tell there was something different, something extra about Kate and James’ sexual connection.

A big difference is the familiarity with each other they already shared. They knew each others bodies, and how they reacted. That’s typically not the case in the swinger spaces. You see tentative at times, almost always new and exploratory. Not at that way with Kate and James when I was with them.

I’ve seen Kate in a statistically significant amount of sexual scenarios over the last few years. There’s nothing on God’s green earth on the same page as seeing the woman you love being lost sexually with other people. From gang bangs to soft kisses with another girl, her bound and getting flogged, to her wearing a strap on and interacting with both men and women. It’s all amazing. Nothing comes close to what I saw as James shifted into the missionary position with Kate.

Seeing Kates face, and how her body reacts to James, is etched in my mind. That mental picture is my definition of ecstasy. What they do for each other is unique to their relationship. Their bodies lock in sync with each other, they fit together perfectly.

Forget about jealousy and ego, they fail us at worst and weaken us at best. Why in the wide wide world of sports wouldn’t anyone want the person they love experience this?

A post script to the James night; it was last night, Kate and I have spoken a couple times this morning. We both had weird energy around it. Certainly not bad, and weird is probably too strong a word. The disturbance in the force that was me going on solo travel didn’t mix perfectly well with the part time vibe James has. Kate had the usual great sex with him, and no one’s headspace was wonky, but the energy was a thing.

With Kate, it’s never totally about the Big O. Some women are highly orgasmic, Kate’s not one of them. Sex for Kate is about much much more than an orgasm. Which brings us to Saturday’s chicanery with Chris.

If James’ vibe with Kate has a part time-ness to it, Chris is the opposite. Chris and Kate started with a conversational getting to know you connection. With James, given their meeting was at a swinger house party, theirs was much more physical much more quickly. It’s easier to use the word relationship with Chris. I also have a relationship with Chris. We’ve broken bread and we chat throughout the week. James is more focused on the sex part, with Chris the sex is part of a wider relationship.

Chris will be spending Saturday night at Casa Da Sam and Kate. While Foo Fighters are rocking my world in CO, Kate and Chris will be rocking theirs in PA. Kate has had excellent sexual time with Chris, and is orgasmic with him. It’s different from me or James, and it should be. Their sexual energy and connection is plain to see, wrapped as it is by their humanity connection with each other. I haven’t shared a bed with them yet, I look forward to doing so.

The relationship with Chris seems like it’s going to grow and expand. Last night after (GREAT) sex and dinner, they went for an ice cream; Chris is cooking breakfast as I type this. They’re taking Clifford out for a run after they eat. Kate and I jabber jawed for a half hour while Chris cooked. It’s an easy relationship for all three of us. Sex is a component of it, but not the core.

Both James and Chris are more than fuck buddies for Kate. Their relationships with her, and by extension us, are complimentary; there’s no conflict.

The Hotwife dynamic is at the core of our relationship. It meets needs we each have which go unfulfilled otherwise.

Thanks for reading!!! Be kind to yourself and others,

Sam & Kate

PS….Bonus Foo Fighters content….

I’ve been waiting since 1985 for a concert to top Springsteen in Frankfurt Germany on the Born in the USA tour. No more. The Foo’s were legendary yesterday in Denver. The band understood its job, and crushed it. Dave Ghrol last night was the closest I’ll ever see to Freddy Mercury. He owned the crowd, and we owned him. Given the size of the venu (Mile High Stadium, it’s an NFL football stadium) and the crowd, it struck serious Queen at Live Aid vibes. Ghrol was that present, that locked in, there was that much joy. There’s a lot to say, but this isn’t the place. Here’s a couple pics…