The Address is Within Yourself

“I long, as does every human being, to be home wherever I find myself.” Maya Angelou

I was chatting with my friend yesterday about her new relationship. They dated briefly about five years ago and rekindled things in September. She said, “This doesn’t feel like a new relationship high. This just feels like how it was always supposed to be. Like putting your favorite pair of shoes back on, that are broken in in just the right places.”

It reminded me of something Sam said to me early on in our relationship. He said “You feel like home.” I understood what he meant. We were friends for years and then we spent countless hours texting and had many long distance phone conversations. (Sam spent most of our early relationship working all over the world.)

He felt safe and secure with me, and I with him. I don’t think that could have been possible had we both not done our own work on ourselves. The two of us are sober and put a lot of labor into changing our defects.

I had to learn to love myself and be okay with being alone before I could be in a healthy relationship. I always depended on someone else to make me happy. It didn’t work. What I learned was that happiness is an inside job.

Thanks for reading!!! Be kind to yourself and others,

Kate