Cougar Energy In A Hotwife
We got really crazy last Saturday night and damn near closed a semi-local SaladWorks restaurant. The greens were a flowing that night, and I’m here to tell ya. We were there to meet a guy who’s a regular reader of this blog.
Sam is a guy who shares a state with us, and reached out to us at some point via email. We have been in regular contact with him for months. At some point, given that the Allentown area is an hour and change between us, we all figured it would be great to sit down have have meal. So, we did.
It was one of those meet and greet’s that are instantly comfortable. We knew a bit of his story, and he’s pretty much up to speed on Kate and me. Before we finished ordering (we’re buying next time and thank you again, Sam!!) the conversation was flowing freely.
We three settled at a table in the back of the joint and jabber jawed for easily an hour and a half, maybe more.
At some point in the flow of the talk, age gaps came up; and caused Kate to utter the quote that’s the title of this post.
We all kindof agreed that younger than our kids was a loose (honestly, drawn in pencil, and very lightly at that) lower age limit; between Kate and I that number is 28. Turns out I broke that barrier, but really didn’t (I played with a woman whom both Kate and I thought said she was 22….she was 42. Hey…it was in the basement play room on a New Year’s Eve orgy a few years ago). Kate has been below the “threshold” a time or two legitimately.
When pressed about her penchant for younger men, Kate quipped “I don’t check ID’s”.
If you’re reading us for the first time……Kate and I are a married couple in our 50’s whose relationship is Ethically Non-Monogamous (ENM). We’re swingers, our marriage is open; we have sex with other people. We’re in a committed relationship, and somewhere on the polyamorous and cuckold spectrums; Kate has a boyfriend (or two) and is a Hotwife. It’s neither of our first marriages. We met in a 12 step meeting; we’re each more than a decade sober now. If you’re curious about how this all works, we talk about our relationship in varying degrees of depth in other posts. We have an email address listed in our “about” page if you would like to contact us.
I think I have a borderline demographics kink / fetish. Probably more a kink.
Whenever Kate say goes to a 12 step meeting without me, I always ask who’s there, get a feel for the crowd sorta thing. The nitty gritty data points of interactions between people are endlessy fascinating to me. When I am at a meeting, I’m always aware of who’s there; I always count heads as well.
I don’t sit there, or at a hotel party, with a notepad logging who’s who, where they’re from, how old they are, but I do think I pay more attention than most people do. Or not, who’s to say really.
The number one demographic data point of commonality for Kate with the men she plays with now is that the vast majority are younger than her. Interestingly enough (for me anyway), when she was younger, this was exactly opposite.
We have a running list of names of people that we’ve each played with. Since we’ve been in the lifestyle, 80% of the men she’s played with have been younger. I did the math, that’s not a guess.
Included are men from Russia, Greece, Italy, Mexico, Israel, and Ethiopia. There may be more, those are the one’s we know of for sure. So, If you’re from Australia or Kenya, and in your 30’s or 40’s…..drop us a line….🕺🏻
If you’re married to a Hotwife or Cougar like Kate I’d just bet you’ve noticed a few things about how she interacts with the world.
There’s Victoria’s Secret supermodel sexy, then there’s Cougar / Hotwife sexy. The two, as Kate proves, aren’t mutually exclusive, but one is very different energy from the other.
The supermodel’s have physical beauty and curves just so, they can seem almost AI generated and filtered tho. (That was unintended, but waaaaaay to Dr. Seuss to not leave in) They’re beautiful and jaw dropping for sure. They’re also unobtainable; they’re the fantasy, the teenage jerkoff material.
The Cougar / Hotwife walking into the meeting, or gas station, or bar is next level. They may casually “accidently” brush against you in the aisle, the scent of their perfume or shampoo lingering as they pass. Their curves are 3D and real, inches away. With the Cougar / Hotwife there’s a layer of reality, a layer of the sexuality and sensuality of the female form that can only be experienced in the flesh, up close and personal.
Kate and women like her are the opposite of unobtainable. You know them and recognize them when you see them.
Some guys do more than notice women like Kate. They just know. They KNOW. They don’t know the first thing about her, her circumstance, even her name. They KNOW that the ring on her finger isn’t a barrier. They KNOW she’s a player, and while not a sure thing, they KNOW it’s a legit possibility. Kate walks in, and these guys KNOW all other things being equal, she’ll fuck them.
It’s more than that. I think most guys pick up on Kate’s vibe. The guys who KNOW are also the ones with the energy that she’ll pick up on and KNOW back. I don’t have that energy. Sure I was drawn to Kate from the first time I laid eyes on her, and that was a two way street, it’s just different. Kate and I grew from a years long process of getting to know each other, that’s the core of our connection. The physical part is there, but it’s not the core.
With the guys who KNOW, it tends to be a very physical short lived thing. We’ve been fortunate enough in our adventures to meet a few guys who KNOW and have a deeper connection with Kate as well.
This KNOW energy with Kate seems more focused in two demographics; younger men and black men. Focused from them, and her energy at this point naturally flows to those groups.
IDK if it’s an energy thing, pheromones or something else. I suppose some of it may be the way she dresses. It’s another thing that’s hard to define. Kate has a style about her that while not slutty, is sexual. She knows at a very core level that her boobs are her best fashion accessory and she highlights them. There’s usually not a huge amount of clevage visable, but there doesn’t need to be. Kate ROCKS a turtle neck. I guess the point is instead of trying to minimize them, she accentuates them. In case you’ve not noticed, guys tend to like boobs. Kate has great boobs with perky nipples.
As I write this, we’re sitting on the couch, facing each other, legs stretched out. Clifford The Wonder dog is between us, her head on my left leg. In about 5 minutes Kate will do her morning stretch, her back out over the arm of the couch. The flash of her belly button piercing as her shirt pulls up is great, but it’s the swell of her boobs, and nipples that my eye is drawn to. My part in this morning ritual is to enjoy it and announce “best part of the day” as she stretches. Ok, enough about boobs.
On to Clifford The Wonder Dog…..She’s half border collie, and LOVES people, perhaps more even than Kate does. Given the border collie genetics, she’s very task focused and loves a mission.
One of her favorite missions is waking the grandkids in the morning. Two of them stay over a couple nights a week, it’s the easiest way to manage logistics. When 0630 rolls around and I tell her to “go get the boys”….off she goes, bounding up the stairs. She’ll return a couple minutes later with the older lad in tow. She waits for her “gooood girrrrl” from me and then it’s off to get the younger. I’m convinced that a Clifford wake up when you’re a little kid is about as good as it gets, ditto for Clifford. Though she LOVES coming with us for the ride to the bus stop an hour or so later as well.
On to March and Spring!!!
Thanks for reading!! Be kind to yourself and others,
Sam & Kate
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