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Continue reading →: What is Fair in Swinging, Love, and Sex?
Are Fair and Equal the Same Thing? Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash So, there we were, downstairs at a swinger house party, in one of the all-time great play rooms. A converted basement with 3 inflatable king size mattresses, and two giant sectional couches. An industrial grade sex swing as the…
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Continue reading →: So, My Wife is a Hotwife….Part II
More About How Kate and I Approach ENM and Hotwifing. Photo by Michael Jerrard on Unsplash Kate and I share a kind of dark and offbeat humor that’s common in the world in which we met. People tend to think that folks in 12 step programs are stone faced serious and…
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Continue reading →: I’m 10 Years Sober Today.
When you know, you know. Sunrise from Vandenburg, CA a few years back. Photo by Sam. When you know, you know. I knew on March 10, 2014. I somehow made it into the bathroom that morning, and when I saw myself in the mirror, I knew. Physically, I was at that place…
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Continue reading →: Swinger Hotel Takeovers
What Are They? Where Are They? What Are They Like? Photo by Mara Conan Design on Unsplash The Actor’s Husband is hands down one of our favorite swinger characters. Far as I know, we never said a word to him, I’ll have to ask Kate if she talked to him at all;…
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Continue reading →: How We’ve Met Lifestyle People.
Meeting Likeminded People Isn’t as Scary or Difficult as You Might Think. Photo by Pineapple Supply Co. on Unsplash I moved in with Kate shortly after returning from from a work trip to Iceland. This was in March of 2020. I flew out of Keflavik on Friday, March 13th. This was basically…
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Continue reading →: What Life Looks Like in a Marriage that’s Open
Probably Pretty Similar to Most Happy Couples Photo by Sam and Kate I phrased the title of this article intentionally. Kate and I are married first, and open second. Sure, the open or non-monogamous part is a foundational part of our marriage; our relationship was open before we got married. We’re in…
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Continue reading →: Thoughts on Threesomes, Guy Bi Play, and Some Book Recomendations.
Is three really company? Photo by Simon Hurry on Unsplash Kate and I have been having an ongoing conversation with a guy we’re going to meet and play with this weekend. His name is Michael, he’s a player for sure, some would call him a bull, although he hasn’t used that label…
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Continue reading →: What do Marriage and Swinging Have in Common With Cuckolding?
It’s All About Compersion Kate at a club — Photo By Sam I’ve had the good fortune to travel the world, more than once. I’ve gotten decidedly off the beaten path, nowhere close to anything tourist related. I’ve met, struggled with language barriers, and broke bread with a wide cross section of humanity.…
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Continue reading →: Being Uncomfortable in the Lifestyle and Recovery
Photo by Kyle Glenn on Unsplash We’ve made no bones about the fact that Kate and I are both long term sober, and that we met at a meeting. We’ve discovered that there’s a surprising amount of commonality between being sober and being ethically non-monogamous (ENM). Well, at least if you’re…
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Continue reading →: A swinger trip to Puerto Vallarta??? Yes Please!!
Sam and Kate go to Mexico!!! The view at sunset from our villa, looking towards Yelapa. One sure fire way to appreciate a trip to Mexico’s central Pacific coast is to start it from the Newark airport. In early February. Before the suns up. Kate and I had been anticipating this…
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