If you’ve just discovered Sam & Kate, the number of posts on the site can be a little overwhelming. We’ve been sharing our experiences, thoughts, successes, mistakes, and lessons learned for years now. We’re happy you’ve found your way here, we hope you find a sense of community and some of what we share resonates with you.
We’re a happily married, ethically non-monogamous, long term sober couple sharing our journey and the things we’ve learned along the way. If you’re looking for experts, coaches, or gurus, well, you’re in the wrong place.
Full disclosure: This isn’t a porn blog. Sure, we talk about our story and some of the sexual adventures we’ve had. That stays at the R rated level for the most part; we’ve decided long ago not go very hardcore with this.
If you’re new to the site, these are the ten posts we’d suggest reading first. Together they tell our story, explain how we approach ethical non-monogamy, and highlight some of the lessons that have shaped us.
Our Lifestyle / ENM / Swinging Origin Story
Where it all began. The story of how we found our way into ethical non-monogamy and what we learned along the way.
How Ethical Non-Monogamy Looks for Us
Every relationship is different. This post explains what ENM looks like in our marriage and the values that guide us.
The Ethical Part of Non-Monogamy
For us, ethics aren’t a footnote—they’re the foundation. This post explores why.
Jealousy: The 8 Letter 4 Letter Word
An honest look at jealousy, how it shows up, and how we’ve learned to work through it.
One of our core relationship philosophies and an important part of how we approach love, trust, and autonomy.
Cuckolding from an Abundance Mindset
A look at cuckolding through a lens of confidence, trust, and abundance rather than fear or scarcity.
So…..My Wife’s a Hotwife Part II
One of our more personal reflections on hotwifing, relationships, and growth.
A candid discussion of one of the more challenging conversations we’ve had as a family.
Thoughts on intimacy, connection, and sexuality as we continue to grow older together.
A post about change, growth, and thinking intentionally about the future.
Thanks for spending some time with us. We hope something here is helpful, thought-provoking, or simply reminds you that you’re not alone.
Sam and Kate 